So we all know that it’s a given when you become a mum that you fall spectacularly to the bottom of the pile.
And I’m not talking of the laundry variety – although come to think of it, making sure the other half has clean socks (while also juggling children, work deadlines, school commitments…) is obviously ‘more important’ than you actually getting the chance to eat lunch.
(I would like to point out here that hubby has never been the type to moan about this. He is very good at wearing dirty socks for a second, and even third, day. No, it’s usually me that ends up washing the socks instead of eating the sandwich due to that lovely thing known as Mum Guilt.)
But sometimes it’s nice – and healthy – to do something for yourself. The experts even say that watching that half hour of TV you’ve been saving up, reading a magazine or meeting a friend for dinner actually makes you a better parent because no one is capable of being totally selfless 100 per cent of the time.
In my case it’s more like 60 per cent, on a good day.
I’ve been pondering on this in the last couple of days because hubby and I took a few hours out last Saturday evening to watch The Godfather, accompanied by a rather large bar of Toblerone. And it was great.
It’s one of those films I’ve always wanted to watch but never got round to. And although there were numerous jobs I could have been doing, it was time well spent.
Now although I would like to go on holiday to Canada, see Lake Louise and take a trip on the Rocky Mountaineer, clearly – with two young kids in tow – this probably won’t happen any time soon. In fact we’re saving that particular daydream up for retirement.
But, there are little goals that as a mum could, and should, be realistically achievable in the near(ish) future. A Mum Bucket List if you will – although as I’m not planning on expiring anytime soon, fingers crossed, this may not be the best name for it.
Anyway, here goes:
- Watching The Godfather 2 without falling asleep (due to exhaustion, not film quality) and/or pondering over the fact that Diane Keaton, IMO, was spectacularly miscast.
- Watching the original Star Wars. I know – I just never got around to that film either.
- Having the discipline to actually write my novel. A good friend has just scored a two-book publishing deal and I’m very inspired by her determination and drive.
- Going back to my favourite city New York to celebrate my 40th. If in laws will babysit! And hubby will pay!
- Getting the chance in the course of my job to interview actress Lauren Graham (yes, the one from Gilmore Girls). I love her.
- Making sure that when one of my best friends moves away in January (sob, sob) that we still meet up at least once a month.
- Growing my business in 2016 and expanding my PR and copywriting client base.
- Biting the bullet and going to the dentist for the first time in four years. (I don’t even have a phobia, I just never seem to get around to it.)
- Going through all the boxes in the garage that I haven’t looked at it in over two years, discovering what’s actually in them and then selling or giving it all away.
- Starting piano lessons again for the first time in 20 odd years and seeing if Mini-me would like to join me.
- Purchasing a piano on which to play, badly.
- Going to the cinema much more often than I do. It’s one of the great joys of life.
- Writing more frequent, and possibly more gripping, blog posts!
What’s on your Mum Bucket List? I’d love to know.